Weight Loss is a Mind Game
Do you agree with the above statement? Think about it. Everything we do begins in thought, spurred on by emotion. Our mental processes led to our weight gain. Therefore, our mental processes, with a little tweaking, can get our slim body back. How’s that for an exciting thought!
We are bombarded with advice on the physical aspect of losing weight. But if just knowing what to do, physically, was all it took no one who valued being slim would ever be overweight. Our mindset, on the other hand, is responsible for approximately 90% of what we manifest.
All we have to do is look around at our burgeoning obese population to realize that weight loss can be a challenge. Most know what to do to lose weight. But unless they have some physical reason why they can’t lose weight (rare!), could absolutely attain the slim figure of their dreams. The secret, which you are about to find out, is knowing how to access and harness the incredible Power of Your Mind…the 90%!
After using the techniques in this post, you just might astound yourself with your increased level of mental power. Whether you have ten pounds to lose or one hundred, it will suddenly all seem so ‘doable.’
Most of us have experienced rarefied instances when we were really ‘on top of our game.’ Somehow we suddenly become super-effective—a veritable whirling dervish of achievement. Where did this super-woman or superman come from? We know we didn’t suddenly inhabit a different body. Therefore, something special must have been happening in our mind. The body just followed through beautifully.
First let’s look for a moment at how incredibly powerful the mind really is.
A great resource to convince you of this is The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy, Ph.D., D.D. Murphy had a great opportunity to practice his own methods when he found out he had a sarcoma (malignancy in connective tissue).
Happily he managed to cure himself of this cancer ‘using the healing power of my subconscious mind.’ And he’s helped millions remove mental blocks, achieve amazing goals and find personal and professional happiness and success. His M.O.? He helps people understand and access the ‘miracle-working power’ of their subconscious minds.
Do you agree that the more skills you have to deal with a challenge, and the more you apply them, the more likely you will be to succeed? Merely wishing and hoping and haphazard efforts—the strategies of the masses—give wishy-washy results, if any at all.
So by understanding the mental aspect of weight loss, how the subconscious mind works and learning new skills (such as our Mind Tips and Tricks), you will increase your odds of winning at the weight loss game.
Why? Because as you pay attention to how you feed your mind, you’ll find you have increased control of your thought processes. We know that if we give our body nutritious food it will perform better. Feed your mind high-quality thought fuel and you’ll have better results too. It’s amazing how this works.
That’s where this post comes in. You will love putting my Mind Tips and Tricks to work to harness your Mind Power. The techniques are fun and easy to follow.
So, read on, and add a few ‘Mind Games’ to your daily mental diet. Your reward? -That new body you have wanted for so long just may finally become yours!
What Can You Expect?
You’ll be excited as you notice daily shifts in your thinking, and subtle changes in your willpower. When a scrumptious dessert tempts you, for example, you may find yourself saying: “Sure, it would be good, but I can do without it.”
Do not underestimate the power of slight shifts in thinking like this. These little adjustments in your thought processes begin a powerful momentum in the right direction. They also have a cumulative effect which can bring about major change.
Imagine, for example, starting out on a trip with a friend. You agree that you will veer off in direction by about 20 degrees from the original path which your friend stays on. Before long, your journey will be miles away from your friend. Similarly, before long, that dessert won’t even tempt you anymore. Your mind has veered away from this former temptation.
As you read through this post, you will find new ideas and images and thoughts forming in your mind in regards to your weight loss, eating habits and self-image. And you’ll find it interesting to see how once an idea takes hold it is propelled by its own momentum.
Lots of positive change may start shooting forth in all directions, not just in weight loss! You’ll start seeing yourself in a new light, feeling more confident and empowered as you add to your arsenal of weight loss techniques.
Note: Some of these exercises may feel a little silly to you. Don’t let that stop you. Some of the top executives and sports icons in the world use such techniques—and pay top dollar to the motivational coaches who teach them. Do them because they work. Do them until they work!!
A word about practice: the more diligent you are about practicing these mind tips and techniques, the more success you will have–not just in weight loss, but in other areas of your life. The concept of diligent practice was, in fact, the basis for a National Bestseller entitled: ‘Talent Is Overrated.’ In it, author Geoff Colvin examines the so-called geniuses amongst us and finds that their secret all comes down to ‘diligent practice.’
I was amazed to read, for example, that a top chess master had a very average IQ. People just assumed he had a genius level IQ. Let that be an inspiration to you! Master the skill of diligent practice and you just may ‘seem’ to become a ‘genius’ at weight loss. Go ahead . . . imagine that! A ‘transformed you’ who astounds everyone. Everyone will want to know your secret!
If you feel daunted by the concept of diligent practice, don’t worry. You’ll find these ‘brain games’ interesting, fun and easy to do. By learning and applying these techniques daily, you’ll win at the Mind Game of Weight Loss. It’s not half the battle. It’s at least ninety per cent. Worth it? You bet!!
The Ninety Percent – Introducing ‘The Wizard’
So how do you win at the Weight Loss Game? It’s all a matter of getting to the source—your brain and its mysterious reservoir, the subconscious mind. This is what I call your Wizard. An out-of-control, misguided Wizard is the reason you gained weight. Getting him under control is how you are going to get ‘you’ back—including your spirit and ‘joie de vivre.’
An oft-repeated metaphor for the mind is that it is like an iceberg . . . ninety per cent of it lies under the surface. That underlying ninety per cent is your sub-conscious mind. But your sub-conscious mind isn’t like a cold mass of ice. Rather it’s like a playful child. It responds well to pictures, stories and emotion. Like a child, it absorbs everything. And like some children it takes over your life and controls everything you do!!
Think of these ‘Top 15 Tips and Tricks for Fast Weight Loss’ as the guidelines or rules of the game. They all work at getting your ‘Wizard’ on your side, working for you. Up until now, he’s been working more like an opponent, sabotaging your success. We’re going to change all that now. You and Your Wizard are going to become one—working together as a powerful team to reach your weight loss goals and your dream body!
The journey into the uncharted waters of your mind begins! Are you ready for the adventure?!?
HOW YOU CAN CHANGE
There’s an oft-repeated motivational ditty that goes something like this: “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get the same results.” Einstein called it the definition of insanity.
I think it’s more like the definition of extreme frustration, or maybe even the ‘status quo.’ It’s just so easy to coast along, hoping that someday you’ll change, someday you’ll try harder or someday your luck will kick in.
To be fair, a lot of us do ‘try harder’ but these efforts tend to be short-lived.
Why not take that axiom above and rephrase it to:
“If you always think, what you’ve always thought, you’ll always get the same results.” Think about that!
The ‘Mechanics’ of Change
We live in a fast-paced world with distractions and unhealthy temptations at every turn. If we resist them for a while, but don’t see the pounds dropping off fast enough, we give up easily. Then it’s back to our comfort zone. It’s not until we realize that our ‘comfort zone’ isn’t so great after all that we make the first mental step toward change.
If you stay in your comfort zone – you will never achieve exciting change!
World-renowned motivational guru, Tony Robbins, is a master at helping people change. Remember how Lady Diana went through a sullen, unhappy period to suddenly regaining her sparkle and renewed purpose in life? In her darkest period, Robbins was flown to the palace to give her one-on-one coaching. I wouldn’t be surprised if he was the reason for her amazing turnaround.
You may have already read Robbins’ excellent books: Unlimited Power and Awaken The Giant Within. These are tremendous resources to help you tap into your personal power like never before. I read both books years ago, but dusted them off, started reading and got inspired all over again!
Try out his methods and discover how exhilarating it can be to really take control of your life and start feeling your own power. Reading them is like having Tony right there with you. Like any great personal trainer, he really cares about your success. And he really makes you stop and think how much more wonderful your life could be—then gives you the strategies to get there.
So how does Tony advise his clients and readers to kickstart the change process? He says that:
For an individual to change, they must associate more pain with the status quo than with going through the change process.
In other words . . .if you are really unhappy with the way things are, you will be willing to go through the effort and discomfort of making change for the better. Which leads us to . . .
Powerful Mind Tip #1
Ramp Up the Pain
Pain as a powerful motivator? Who knew! But when you think about it, isn’t it true?
When I look back on my life, I realize that a lot of changes I made were, in fact, due to pain in one form or another: a bad boss, a bad relationship, an apartment closet that shed plaster on my clothes—all prompted me to move on. So let’s begin by acknowledging:
Pain is your starter fuel. It’s the catalyst for change.
Here’s an exercise to get your weight loss engines revved up. Begin by ramping up the pain that your extra weight loss has caused you. (And you thought maybe I’d be easing you into this!) But you wouldn’t be reading this post if there wasn’t some dissatisfaction (emotional pain) with your body-right?
Don’t worry, the fun will begin soon. And in a little bit, you will do an exercise to expel all this negativity from your mind.
In the meantime, think of this first exercise as prep work. So, for a moment, take a look at any pain you have that may be caused by your extra weight. Include both physical pain, for example knee pain, lower back pain, and muscle aches (yes, those can be weight-related!), then move on to the emotional pain.
Pour out the Pain on Paper – Physical Side
Start by taking a sheet of paper and creating two columns. Down the left side, list all the physical things that really bother you about being overweight and the consequences of these things in your lifestyle down the right-hand side.
For example, knee pain caused by extra weight would be in the left column. The consequence for the right hand column might be that this pain has prevented you from playing the sports you previously enjoyed. Feeling sad about that would be another effect. Keep it going. Are there other activities you’ve had to curtail due to physical pain?
Pour out the Pain on Paper – Emotional Side
Has your weight affected your:
- · lovelife?
- · career? or . . .
- · your confidence?
Does it annoy you when how you dress is dictated by hiding bulges rather than expressing your fashion sense?
- · Do you feel less attractive sexually?
- · Are you avoiding looking for love with a new man?
- · Do you shy away from enjoying the beach?
- · Do you feel clumsy and less feminine?
- · Does that image in the mirror reflect the real you?
- · Is all that flab weighing you down emotionally?
This isn’t the time to be defensive or to deny your feelings. Writing it down tells the mind that you are serious about this exercise. Let the pain all out.
Remember, telling yourself you are okay with the way you are won’t serve your desire to change.
Now let’s move on to something more positive!!
Powerful Mind Tip #2
Your ‘Reasons Why’
Create Twice As Many Positives—Your Reasons Why!
Okay, take a deep breath and switch gears.
Wouldn’t want you to slip into a state of morose despair! So please immediately list all the ways your life will be better, simpler, happier, more serene, more exciting and all those good things on a new page. Put these words at the top of the page:
“Losing weight will improve my life because:”
While you do this exercise, you might find your sense of purpose crystalizing. Clarity and purpose provide wonderful forward momentum to your weight loss program.
You might also notice how your energy changes as you contemplate all these positive effects.
Keep adding to your Reasons Why, by the way. More ideas will crop up as you read through this post and go through your day. I once went to a seminar where we had to list one hundred ways that being a more successful salesperson would impact our life. So don’t stop at ten! As you write and contemplate your words, keep the statement below in mind:
The more ‘Reasons Why’ you have for making a change, the more likely your success!
Here are some ideas of common responses to this exercise to get you thinking:
Losing weight will improve my life because:
- · I will feel better about myself
- · I will have more confidence
- · More confidence will help me in:
o My love life
o My career
o My relationships with friends and acquaintances and strangers I’d like to make a good impression on
- · I will feel better about my body
- · I will be healthier which means I will
o Be around longer for my children
o Be able to enjoy life more
o Be able to play [tennis] again
- · I’ll feel sexier
- · I’ll enjoy shopping for lingerie again (and will find bras more comfortable!)
- · I’ll enjoy shopping for new clothes again
- · I’ll be able to fit into the good quality clothes hanging in my closet that I’ve been waiting to wear again and couldn’t part with I’ll have a waist! (and be able to tuck blouses in and wear skinny belts)
- · I’ll have more energy and stamina to get through my day
- · I’ll feel that I have more respect from others
- · I’ll feel more feminine
- · I’ll feel more graceful
- · It will make my kids happy
- · It will make my husband (or boyfriend) happy
- · My weight loss success will encourage my daughter (son, husband, mother, friends) to lose weight too
- · I’ll be able to fit into airline seats, sports cars and washroom cubicles more comfortably!
- · I’ll have less pain in my knees and/or lower back
- · I’ll be encouraged to have better posture (no longer hunching in a bit to disguise bulging tummy)
- · I’ll look younger (get rid of the aging double chin)
- · I’ll stop looking frumpy
- · Exercise will be easier
- · I’ll be encouraged to build muscle which burns more calories than regular tissue and so will help to maintain my new, slimmer figure
- · I’ll have less cellulite
- · I’ll feel happier
I’m sure you can come up with more and ones that will have more meaning for you personally.
Tip: To expand your list, try coming up with specific reasons as well as general ones.
Keep your ‘Reasons Why’ close to your heart. Remind yourself of them on a daily basis. They are a very powerful motivator.
Next we’re going to take these two lists and make them really work for us in bringing about change through some powerful mind techniques.
Powerful Mind Tip #3
Visualizations – To Get You There!
Our Wizard has an interesting trait we are going to capitalize on. He has a hard time distinguishing between what is real and what is imagined. Since all thoughts, especially those vividly imagined, eventually seep into the subconscious mind, we’re going to tap into this incredibly powerful technique–visualizations.
Visualizations, by the way, are at the basis of the astounding positive changes that hypnotherapy can bring about. World renown coaches have their elite performers practice visualizations daily to catapult their clients to new levels of success. (One famous coach said that the secret to getting his athletes to do these mental exercises was to never call it ‘hypnotherapy.’ The phrase he always used was “Guided Visualizations.”)
Here are the steps:
i) Get yourself into a calm, receptive state. Relax in a chair or lie down and close your eyes. Do some relaxed breathing, while noticing the sounds and feel of each deep breath.
ii) Next, take all those negatives you listed, and feel them weighing you down. Hear what you tell yourself, see your figure-destroying flab, and get in touch with how you feel about all this. Ramp up the pain of all these feelings.
iii) Now ask yourself what you have learned from the whole sad experience of gaining weight, yoyo dieting, etc. (It is necessary to ‘retain the learnings’ before you rid yourself of all the negatives.
iv) Next, in your mind’s eye, stuff all those negatives into a black bag and see yourself hurling them out into the universe. (You might need more than one black bag!!) Then . . .
v) Now take all the positive images and feelings you listed of you, having achieved your ideal weight, and ramp those up. Feel the pride and joy in your slimmed down body, see the admiring glances of others (and your own, as you look in the mirror); hear the compliments you receive from others and the excited kudos you give yourself from achieving a long-sought goal. Bask in the feeling.
Powerful Mind Tip #4
Notice the change in energy and peace in your body and mind when you shift from Step ii) to Step v) above. Wouldn’t you like to experience the state you were in, in number v), all the time? A technique borrowed from the world of NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) can help you do just that. It is called “anchoring.” What you do is to take that vivid, desired state and then ‘anchor’ it with some physical move. Here are those steps:
i) Make the desired state as vivid in your mind as possible, utilizing all the senses. For example:
a) make the colors super bright and the images close;
b) also imagine the aural aspect (sounds and words you would be hearing, i.e. what you tell yourself and what others comment); and
c) ramp up the kinesthetic (touchy-feely) component.
ii) Anchor It: Once you have heightened your desired state, reinforce or ‘anchor’ that experience with some physical move. (One I’ve used is to press the thumb and forefinger of my right hand together. I reinforce this method further by silently making an affirming statement as I do the physical move. You could say, for example (and do it fervently!): “This is the real me.”
iii) Fire Up The Anchor: In moments of weakness, you can access or ‘Fire Up Your Anchor’ any time you want to experience that wonderful state, simply by doing that physical move (the Anchor) again. Summon up that vivid picture of you at your ideal best, along with all the wonderful, associated feelings any time you please.
Want to take your visualizations to an even higher level? Try this next method to help move you towards your weight loss goals faster:
Powerful Mind Tip #5
Create a Magnetic Dynamic – Looking Back From the Future
To make our visualizations even more powerful we’re going to employ another incredibly powerful technique. You’re going to go into the future in your mind’s eye.
How long do you think it will take to achieve your goals? Go out into that future time. See yourself looking wonderfully slimmed down and feeling great. Infuse all of those positive feelings, sights and sounds of number v) above into your being.
Ramp them up to an intense level to make them seem all the more real, again using all your senses.
We’ll call this your Future Vantage Point or FVP. The steps of this strategy create a kind of magnetic mind pull. Here’s how it works.
From your FVP, look back in time at the former you. Slowly sweep through time in your mind’s eye, taking yourself from the ‘Former You’ up to your FVP. See yourself making all the right choices along the way. For example, there are paths that veer off to take you away from your goal. You watch as you see how you stopped and contemplated these temptations, but stayed on the right path.
Feel the pride you felt then in making the right decision. See the smile on your face as you continued on your way to your FVP. Think of everything you did right to get you to your future state. Make it detailed. For example, see yourself researching yummy and healthful recipes, shopping for the ingredients, coming home and cooking them up, then enjoying the fruits of your labor.
Now bring yourself up to your FVP. Go ahead and feel a little smug. Relish the moment. You made it! You did it! You feel great, proud of yourself and, yes, powerful. You feel like you can tackle new challenges and ace them too.
Why does this FVP technique work so well? Think about it. If you look forward—your mind just perceives it as wishful thinking. Doubt about whether it will ever happen seeps into the picture. Remember, our Wizard has a hard time distinguishing between what is real and what is imagined.
Painting a picture in your mind of your desired goal as a ‘fait accompli’ has the effect of tricking it into thinking of your ‘future you’ as a reality.
Now you’re creating certainty. Nice word. It reminds me of my favorite motivational phrase:
“Proceed as if you cannot fail.”
Only in this scenario, you have already succeeded. Even better!!
You’ll love the FVP technique.
Use it for other improvements you want to make in your life, not just weight loss.
Powerful Mind Tip #6
Set Mental Boundary Lines
Establish mental Finish Lines, for example. Decide in advance when you sit down to a meal that you won’t over-tax your body by going beyond the ‘Finish Line.’
You decide at what point that is. It could be two thirds of the way through. Or just listen to your body. When you are eating, be on the alert for ‘The Big Breath’ cue. If you find yourself pausing to take a deep breath, you’ve reached the Finish Line!
Do something to signify to yourself that the meal is over. For example, “put a lid on it”—literally and figuratively! Signal to yourself that you are done by placing your knife and fork together (or if you are alone, move your plate away—out of reach!) Place the leftovers in a container. Or simply: just walk away (mentally and figuratively!)
Here’s another mental boundary line—Your Plateau—that area between the floor level and ceiling where your weight seems to fluctuate. Let’s say you are in that plateau area between 155 and 160 lbs. In your mind, you have told yourself that you never, ever want to go over 160 again! You have been pretty successful at staying under 160 lbs. for the last little while and have even gotten down to 155.5. But you just can’t seem to break down through the 155 mark.
You wake up and weigh yourself in the morning and weigh, let’s say 157. Your conviction to stay away from that 160 lbs. mark is incredibly strong. If you get to 159 lbs. you panic. It’s too close to 160 lbs for comfort. So you automatically take the steps to avoid hitting that ceiling again. If you are so good at avoiding the 160 lbs, why not lower that boundary in your head from 160 to 158? Make going over the 158 mark just as abhorrent as going over 160.
Tell yourself “My new ceiling is 158. It’s a solid steel ceiling. I can’t go through that ceiling.” You have just reset the high end of your mental weight boundary. Now visualize 153 as the floor of your new plateau range. Meditate on it. Think about settling down on that floor level before you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning. Before you know it, you will have reached the new floor of 153 lbs.
But here’s a cool thing. Because your mind likes to think in neat chunks, it will want to reset your new floor to 150 and your ceiling at 155. Your plateau has just gone down 5 lbs!
Visualization Summary: Remember: Vividness and intensity are crucial for the effectiveness of visualization techniques. So remember to ramp up all the senses with each visualization you do. Really see, hear and feel the part! Add the sense of scent too if you like. Perhaps there is a sophisticated perfume you’ll be wearing. Use your creativity. Some people like to run the visualization as a movie in their mind. Have fun with it. Be the Stephen Spielberg of visualizations!
For a few ideas to get your creative muscle limbered up, proceed to Tip #7 and #8.
Powerful Mind Tip #7
Reframing is a technique whereby you try looking at the situation from a totally different perspective (a more positive one!) to help create a more desirable result.
It’s a concept embodied in the old saying: “Change the way you look at something and the thing you look at changes.” Could that have meaning in your weight loss program? Three ideas quickly come to mind:
Reframe your view of yourself from being a fat person to being a slim person
Reframe desserts from being delicious temptations to heart cloggers
Reframe the standard thinking that weight loss is extremely difficult to thinking it’s a cinch!
Let’s take the last one, for example. Say you are of the firm mind that losing weight is difficult. (Blame the media and conventional wisdom if you like.) Then along comes someone who has successfully lost the weight and kept it off. They tell you they just made the decision to get fit and healthy. That’s it. They just set their mind to it and made it happen.
Perhaps they had an instigating health scare, perhaps not. The main point is that it seemed like a no brainer for them. They just cut out the bad stuff, exercised It’s tough! It’s easy! more and kept at it. “What gives?” you ask yourself. “How can they lose weight so easily?” We have been programmed in the media to think that our chances of weight loss success are dismal, like the chances of marriage success!
“If they can do it so easily, so can I,” you say. Your mind has just undergone a reframe, prompted by a living example.
A reframe is like a mental snap.
In the above example your mind quickly spun through a 180 degree reversal in thought from “it’s hard” to “it’s easy.” Reinforce the reframe with a repetitive mantra such as: “It’s easy. I can do it too.” Say with emotion!
Here’s another mental snap: From “I want that delicious-looking cheese croissant now!” to “I’d rather not!” or “I’d much prefer a delicious, pure apple” or “that cheese croissant is a bad, calorie, fat-laden risk to my health and my slim body!”
Sounds simple, I know. But don’t underestimate how powerful Reframing can be. It is one of the techniques used by experienced NLP Masters to help drug addicts kick their habit, for example.
Reframing changes your mindset from “I can’t to an “I can.”
How powerful is that?! It dissolves excuses. It changes limiting beliefs to enabling beliefs. It puts the lie to the oft-repeated saying that it takes 21 days to install a new behavior. Your reframing ‘mind tool’ gives you that edge.
The Wizard Builds Momentum For You
Once you are in “I can” mode your Wizard starts searching for ways to make it happen.
It will find them. Your Wizard is complex, multi-dimensional and all-knowing.
All it needed all this time was a little empowering from you . . .
Reframing is a lovely technique to do just that!
Powerful Mind Tip #8
The Story Strategy
This is an advanced strategy that combines all of the above techniques. It fleshes out The Reframing strategy. It includes elements of your Reasons Why, the Future Vantage Point technique, Making It Matter Urgency and Making It Exciting (next section).
Take a few moments to contemplate any lingering negative stories you have created for yourself. Think back to the ‘Ramping Up The Pain’ exercise for help. Negative stories are the ones that start with “I can’t,” I’m ‘just,’” etc.
Then create your New Story. Take that vision of yourself in the Future Vantage Point technique, the one where you have already arrived at your ideal self. Build a story around this wonderful you. How you feel now, how empowered you are, and confident, and happy, and able to better give to others now that you are at peace with yourself, for example. See yourself doing an about face from the Old Story to the New Story.
Our child-like Wizard loves stories. Indulge him with some creative story-telling of your own. And remember, he loves vivid pictures. Make your New Story meaningful to you, make it inspiring . . . and make it happen, by repeated telling. Your Wizard will want to hear it again and again. Then he’ll work at making it a reality for you.
Let’s take a break here for Story Time . . . Enjoy!
Story: Weight Evaporates—New Man Materializes: You’ve lost the weight. You are incredibly proud of yourself. You wonder what took you so long. Your whole life has improved. It’s incredible the lift it has given to your spirit, your confidence – in short, your whole outlook towards life. Getting dressed is a joy. You choose your outfit according to your mood and the occasion – not to hide embarrassing bulges and flab! Shopping for new clothes is fun, fun, fun – not depressing!! You feel healthier and happier, more vibrant and alive. Suddenly you are contemplating all sorts of new possibilities. It’s as if you’ve entered a whole new realm of being.
It’s early one summer evening. You are spritzing yourself with your new, very expensive and divine perfume as you get ready for your date. You thank heaven you lost the weight that was dragging you down, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
But now, you muse, life is good, as you smooth your hands over your slimmed down hips and your new little figure-hugging cocktail dress. Months ago, you had almost given up hope of ever finding romance in your life again. That was before you committed to your weight loss program. Now you are reaping the rewards. Your new confidence, joy for life, and, let’s face it, your new killer body attracted the attention of a wonderful new man—someone who inspires you to be your best. Someone you may spend the rest of your life with?? The evening awaits!
Executive Trainer Changes People’s Destiny
If you would like to delve more deeply into the art of story-telling to reach your goals, check out The Power of Story, subtitled “Change Your Story, Change Your Destiny in Business and In Life.” Author Jim Loehr is a guy who creates boot camps for Fortune 500 execs and pro athletes. You can imagine that, having a reputation for being one of the best in the business, he has a lot of pressure on him to deliver.
What does he use to bring about stunning results? The Power of Story! It’s the basis of his trainings and he is positively messianic about it. He warns that if you do not invest the time and effort to follow his methods, “you will have failed. You’ll be living the same old story.”
He admits that this is harsh. But he has seen the incredible results his clients achieve after creating new, compelling stories for themselves after years of failing using other methods. He doesn’t want you to fail and encourages you to be totally committed to the system.
Psychotic Patient Changes His Story
Speaking of incredible results, another master at creating them was the legendary Milton Erickson, possibly the world’s most effective hypnotherapist. The following is an account of how he expertly combined hypnotherapy, combined with the Power of Story:
There was a psychotic patient in a mental institution who had a ‘Jesus complex.’ No one could talk him out of it. All he did was sit unresponsively in a corner, speaking to no one. He had been in this state for about a year. All the psychiatrists and psychologists had thrown up their hands in despair of ever helping this man.
Then Milton Erickson was called in to see what he could do. After only a few sessions with the great man, this fellow was building bookshelves for the hospital library. And he was chatting with people and participating in events! The medical establishment was astounded and wanted to know how Erickson had brought about this transformation.
First he had established rapport with the fellow, sitting silently across from him, matching his behavior. Finally, the fellow spoke. He asked what Erickson was doing there. “I hear you’re quite the carpenter,” Erickson ventured. The fellow admitted this was so. Milton got him talking a little more. Eventually he slipped in: “The hospital needs new bookshelves in the library.” As you may remember from the Bible, Jesus was also a carpenter. This fed into the fellow’s story he’d created for himself, that he was Jesus. Finally he was being appreciated for something and agreed to build the bookshelves.
A new story for himself was gelling in his mind. Eventually, working with Erickson, his personal story became increasingly empowering. One year later he was released from the hospital and able to lead a normal life as a productive member of the community. Who knows what would have become of him if he had never changed his story—consigned to a mental institution for the rest of his days??
Now I know you’re not a psychotic. Maybe just a little stressed over being overweight. So before you drive yourself crazy, or sink into despair, why not create a new story for yourself?
First consider the stories you have already been telling yourself. You know the ones, like “I can’t seem to lose weight, no matter how hard I try” . . . “I’m taking after my mother” . . . “I’ll never be able to fit into my old clothes again,” . . . .”I’m too old to lose weight now,” etc.!
One way of unearthing the stories you have been telling yourself is to examine your assumptions.
Stop your thoughts in their tracks!
Ask yourself what your assumptions are for the next hour? How do these assumptions align with the story you have of yourself?
When you are in that cafeteria lineup, what are you assuming your choices will be? Ask yourself the same thing . . . how will the choices you are about to make align with the new story you have of yourself.
Look at other areas of your life (because they all impact on your self-image which impacts on your eating habits.) How much have you been assuming you will accomplish? How about your assumptions for the rest of your day? If you are not assuming anything special will happen, that it will just be another ho-hum day, it probably will be.
On the other hand . . .
Think what could happen if you created an empowering new story.
Go ahead: Tell yourself that you are amazing. And not only are you super effective and successful, but you are also a giving, loving individual to whom good things happen all day long. Nice new story!
Go about your day assuming terrific things will happen and they likely will!
Keep your new story in your awareness all day long too.
Do this every day and as you do, you may just change the story of your life!!
Powerful Mind Tip #9
Making it Matter
This technique is all about keeping the emotion high. Emotion speaks to the Wizard in an impactful way. It prompts him into action. Action leads to success.
(Note: Combine this technique with Visualizations for Increased Impact.)
It’s also the technique that provides the glue. Think back to the last time your willpower wilted. Did you tell yourself that eating that extra helping didn’t matter?
If you tell yourself that sticking to your weight loss goals doesn’t really matter, your prospect of success really becomes unglued! However, if you use this technique, it really impresses upon your Wizard that, yes, ‘It Matters.’ The Wizard turns up the dial on your willpower. You stick to the program. The result? It all becomes easier. When the stakes are high, you are in serious game mode—out to win!
Read the following scenarios illustrating the Making It Matter Technique (combined with the Story technique):
Making It Matter – ‘Short Stories’
a. Short Story: You Are a Super Model: You have a very lucrative swimsuit shoot tomorrow. You feel like a second helping at dinner. But your mind quickly weighs the pros and cons. Hmmm – let’s see: instant satisfaction versus consequences tomorrow. That cute photographer always praises your amazing body. You want to look great. Aiming to please has always helped you get ahead. And these high-paying assignments will disappear if you pack on extra pounds. You plan to spend the money on a special trip for you and your Mom. Her happiness means so much to you, especially after her recent illness. That last model got fired for just gaining 5 pounds. Not going to happen to you—no way. You grab a Perrier instead and congratulate yourself on your professionalism. Taking care of your body is, after all, part of your job. The stakes are high in your career. Making the right food and lifestyle choices matters! End of SuperModel visualization. Can’t relate? OK – try this . . .
b. Short Story: You are a Plus-Size Model: The fashion show is in a few days. You are one of a select few chosen to model criss-cross clingy wrap dresses that show off the curves of voluptuous women. Diane von Furstenberg will be in the audience. Even plus-size models can’t be bulging out at the stomach. You forego that extra helping or dessert. Your career is lucrative. You don’t want to blow it. Don’t want to go back to living in The Projects. You have a little boy to support. You want to take him places, give him the best education, and be an inspiring model for him—literally and figuratively! Your decision matters. You reach for an apple instead and give yourself a pat on the back.
c. Short Story: The Return of The Old Flame: Imagine that an old flame is about to come back into your life and suggest a romantic weekend away to re-connect, so to speak. He’s only in town for a few days, but travels to your town often. You never stopped loving him. You reflect on your past relationship with him and how you blew it with your insecurities. But he did love you. And now he’s finally realized that you were the best thing that ever happened to him. This could be the start of a wonderful renewed relationship –like a series of non-stop honeymoons. You have one week to prepare for the occasion. Your confidence has been growing with each new pound dropped. But the killer outfit you’d love to wear for him is a bit too tight. Are you going to have that second helping?
Somehow the decision to forego an immediate desire comes easier now. Why? The stakes are high!
Here are four tips for Making It Matter . . .
Set a series of deadlines to keep yourself on track, both short and longer term. Write them down to create a strong mind body connection. Writing things down is a way of telling your Wizard that “this really matters!” Deadlines are like goals with urgency. To guide you in goal setting you might want to follow a well-known acronym: S.M.A.R.T. It stands for:
Specific (not vague)
Measurable (what gets measured, gets done)
Time Framed (urgent)
Make it Exciting:
While S.M.A.R.T. is a good guide in goal-setting and used by success coaches around the world, I would add another element: Make It Exciting! Let your mind soar!
How? Apply one or more of your Reasons Why to each goal. By keeping these reasons close to your heart and reviewing them daily, you’ll find goal setting a lot more meaningful. You’ll be making your goals really matter!
Incidentally, on the first point, ‘Specific’ . . . if you have a problem with this, don’t sweat it. You can override vagueness with excitement. Case in point: There is a clip of Oprah enthusing in her early days, before she had made it, saying:
“I’m gonna be rich, rich, rich, rich, rich!!!”
Vague but Exciting!!
A Life or Death Matter:
There was a photo of a young girl balancing a basket on her head in the paper today. It was an ad for a charity. The caption said: “She needs to walk an average of 6km a day to keep her family alive.”
How many kilometres a day do you walk? Would you walk this much or more if it necessitated keeping a family member alive? Sure you would! Why not then do it for yourself? A slimmer, healthier you does, after all, affect your loved ones. Obesity is a killer. The stats bear that somber fact out. What else could you do if the life of the person you love the most depended upon it?
Wanting to be around for your children, for example, is an intense incentive. Jennifer Hudson, the talented and beautiful singer who gained national fame on American Idol, wrote in her book: I Got This: How I Changed My Ways and Lost What Got Me Down that her main motivation for losing weight was her young son.
With all the media attention on her, you’d think she might have done it for her ego. No—it was love for her son that kept her on track.
“I wanted to set a good example for my son. Right after I had him, I began trying to change things. . . My diet started four days after I had my baby.” And while her baby boy was her main motivation for her weight loss, she was thrilled for herself too: “I didn’t expect to get as far as I have. It’s like, wow, this is a whole new world. People treat you completely differently . . . You get more opportunities; you name it.”
Scare and Astound Yourself:
This one is the reverse of the Future Vantage Point technique (where you were looking back from the future). I include it here for those of you who are motivated more by a ‘kick-in-the-pants’ or ‘wake-up call’ than being infused with positivity. (Different people are motivated in different ways.)
Here’s the technique: Envision doing nothing and even back-sliding. How does this make you feel? Imagine fast-forwarding through the years, and seeing that as the years stretch on, you never lose that weight. Your health deteriorates. So does your spirit. So does your life.
Take yourself through this visualization like the Ghost of the Future in the classic Christmas tale, Scrooge. Remember how relieved Scrooge was when he realized it was all a bad dream? That the dismal future the ghost had shown him didn’t have to be? He was so incredibly motivated to change his life that he jumped out of his bed and started transforming himself into a kind person.
This astounded all who knew him, including himself. As you whiz through a bleak future via your own personal Ghost of the Future, end the visualization with a profound sense of relief. The bad dream doesn’t ‘have to be’ for you either. Like Scrooge, feel suddenly infused with the joy of life and all the positive changes you can make.
Sometimes people need to be scared into taking action. And when they are, they astound themselves with the incredible energy that is suddenly manifested, igniting them into action. Near death experiences, for example, are potent motivators!
You don’t have to experience anything so drastic, though, to take advantage of this very effective technique. Just use your imagination. Example: You’ve just been told you have Stage IV cancer and only have six months to live. Shortly thereafter you discover that it was all a big mistake.
Suddenly your life seems ultra-precious. You have been given a gift—a second chance to live a meaningful, wonderful life!
Do you think you can commit to your goals now? You bet!!
Powerful Mind Tip #10
In Neuro Linguistic Programming, the concentration is on the three strongest senses:
1) the visual;
2) the aural (sounds, words & tonality); and
3) kinesthetic (touch and feel).
Using these modalities help us reach our goals, improve our powers of communicating and understand human behavior. When used in combination they are super-powerful.
Let’s look now primarily at the aural component. The following Word Wizardry techniques are also useful in combatting the negative self-talk we bombard ourselves with. A petite young woman I met at the hair salon told me she lost 100 pounds largely through changing her self-talk, combined with empowering visualizations. When I told her it was hard for me to believe she was ever that heavy, she whipped out a picture of her old self—I was so thrilled for her that she had so successfully used her Mind Power to shed all that weight!
Affirmations and Mantras – Repeat Often for Success!!
I know you have heard of Affirmations before. But just as you may go to Church to renew or reaffirm your faith, this prime tool of personal development deserves a revisit. Just to be clear:
An affirmation is an inspiring statement you make (stated in the present tense) to motivate yourself or help reinforce some desired behavior or way of thinking.
I often see sample Affirmations in magazines written in the future tense. This breaks the primary rule: State Affirmations in the present tense! Why? Because by stating your Affirmation in the present tense, you are telling your Wizard it is already a truth for you. (And in a way it is, since your desires are a part of you, right?)
Like the Future Looking Back technique, this creates a dynamic pull to make the desired statement become a reality. Some examples:
1. I am supremely confident.
2. I am happy to be slim and strong.
3. I love and crave the pure, clear taste of spring water.
Three Affirmation Rules:
- · word them in the present tense
- · say them out loud
- · repeat them often and with meaning! (emotion provides that extra spark!)
Affirmations on Steroids—the Mirror Technique:
Brian Tracy, the famous motivational guru, used affirmations to help him achieve success in the sales and corporate consulting fields. He said his affirmations out loud to himself as he looked in the mirror, every morning. Then he advised his clients to do the same.
Saying your affirmations out loud, looking deeply into your eyes in a mirror, is like speaking directly to your Wizard. A deeper, more intense connection is made.
One woman—a success story on a weight loss conference call–had us all laughing as she repeated to us, with great gusto, her morning mirror mantra:
“I’m a fat burning machine!!”
The reason Affirmations work is that since they are simple, said with emotion, and repeated often, they sink very well into the subconscious mind. Fifteen seconds of this is better than doing none at all. But the people who swear by affirmations spend up to five minutes doing them daily in front of a mirror. Nothing, really, when you consider the much longer periods people spend in meditation.
Connect with your all-powerful Wizard visually, aurally and emotionally with these daily Affirmations. The Wizard absorbs it all and kindly sets about manifesting these suggestions into reality for you. It is like magic!!
One of the greatest orators of all time, the great Sir Winston Churchill, used this Mirror Technique.
It enabled him to finesse his speeches and shore up the confidence he needed to rally the nation behind him in World War II.
A Mantra is similar to an Affirmation in that it is said repetitively for some positive effect, but it has an added spiritual element to it. Originally used in the Buddhist and Hindu religions, it was a sound one chanted repeatedly to aid in meditation.
When I do my speed walking and get into my ‘zone,’ I intone: Melting, melting, melting, three-four,” then repeat. It’s great for keeping the rhythm up [melt-ing, melt-ing, melting-ing is like “one-and, two-and, three-and” so you might be wondering why I say “three-four” instead of “four-and” . . . it just works better for me and was something that just came to me naturally so I go with it!). The “melting” refrain sends a nice message to your Wizard that you are speed-walking the fat away!
Do such mind-body connections work? I once heard of a study where people, who were unable to exercise, just imagined themselves going through the motions. Incredibly, their muscle tone improved! Neuro-muscular connections . . . another instance of the Power of Your Mind!
In the world of personal development, ‘Mantra’ has come to mean a word or phrase one repeats to inspire some positive change. Here’s a common one to set your standards by:
“Quality in, quality out.”
You are all about quality now. How can you spend time mindlessly watching junk on TV when you repeat this mantra to yourself? Instead, you will find yourself reading, speaking, watching and listening to quality. You will hang with quality people. You are, after all, one of them. As you go about your day, ask yourself: “Does this add quality to my life?” Will the donut qualify? No . . . an easy decision!
A one-word mantra can serve as a touchstone to our intention.
A powerful example is the word ‘knowing.’
Close your eyes and intone the word ‘Knowing,’ and meditate on all the various meanings the word has for you.
Perhaps just ‘Knowing’ you can do this thing called weight loss . . . or ‘Knowing’ that you are guided by some divine power who empowers you on this journey. Knowing this, how can you be anything but successful?!!
Your mantra could even be the name of the person who inspires you to be your best. If you’d love to marry that person, you could make your mantra: “Mrs. [Clooney??] Personally, I’d love to have actor, Liam Neeson, for my man. “Liam” makes a wonderful mantra . . . almost has an “ohm” mantra-y sound. When I eye a piece of cheesecake, all I have to do is intone “Liam” and I’m back on track with my resolve!
Who says Mantras have to be dead serious—have a little fun with them!!
Song Fragments Rock!
We all know the emotional power of music. Remember as a child how you loved sing-song-y little ditties? Remember as well that the Wizard is childlike. Why not find a Song Fragment you like for both the lyrics and the tune, and customize the words to fit your goals, or just alter their meaning in your mind.
Example: Song Fragment from a Four Seasons’ hit: “Working my way back to you babe, with a burning light inside” could be sung with the “you babe” being your own slim self.
Or you could substitute: “Working my way back to ‘slimness . . .” You get the idea. Like Affirmations and Mantras, Song Fragments repeated often with emotion will sink into your subconscious—delicious fodder for your Wizard!
Another thing your Wizard loves is a good Metaphor. Present him with a meaningful one and he’ll be off and running with it, working behind the scenes to make sense of the metaphor for you.
Metaphors as Motivators: This may have already happened for you if you look back on your life. For example, did anyone ever tell you, you are a ball of fire? Then you find yourself acting like you are on fire, accomplishing one thing after another, like, well, a ball of fire!
What compliments have you received that were expressed as a metaphor? Maybe someone called you a ‘smart cookie.’ My father used to call me this when I was a little girl. I loved it! I would cook up things to delight him just to hear him say it again.
Whatever the comment, if it made you feel good, you may have found yourself manifesting more of the type of behavior the metaphor would suggest.
Caveat: If you were called a ‘black sheep’ or a ‘bad apple’ the results might have been different . . . but only if you bought into it. One wonderful thing about the Wizard is that if a suggestion doesn’t ‘sit well’ with him, he won’t act upon it. If such was the case, however, counteract any lingering effects with lots of positive Mantras and Visualizations.
Metaphors and ‘Story’: You don’t have to wait for someone to compliment you metaphorically. Create one yourself. Combine it with your powerful story for even more effect. For example, you might equate yourself to a jaguar: sleek and powerful and mysterious, inspiring awe and respect as you move through the jungle.
Or perhaps you see yourself as ‘a gem’ – always there for others, a loving, caring person—and one with a little sparkle! Then, of course, you could just go for the Greek ideal of ‘goddess,’ a veritable vision of perfection capturing men’s hearts everywhere.
Metaphors as Monikers: Some cultures name their children with a metaphor, such as ‘Bright Shining Star.’ Imagine having that moniker! How would it influence your ‘Personal Story?’ Why not give yourself a secret, metaphorical nickname? You could even change it up according to what behavior you wanted to focus on improving.
My real estate agent is a real dynamo. She told me that ever since she was a little girl people have called her ‘The Energizer Bunny.’ Deb works tirelessly on behalf of her clients: 6 or even 7 days a week, typically from 6am to 11 at night. Does her moniker provide her with an extra jolt of psychic energy? Only her Wizard knows for sure, but I’m betting it does.
Reinforcing Metaphors: Let’s say you are challenged by forces at work—certain people, for example–who would tear you away from your weight loss goals. There’s the server who cajoles: “Everyone loves our double chocolate molten lava cake—calorie free today . . . wink, wink.” To shore yourself up, you could say to yourself: “I am a rock.” (a solid one, not the molten lava kind!)
To facilitate your weight loss goals, you might want to invoke the metaphorical expression: “Your Body Is Your Temple.” Perhaps you might prefer to think of your body as a “Dream Home.”
Metaphors to Affirm Identity: John Candy’s character in the movie Stripes, famously wanted to be A Lean, Mean Fighting Machine.” You could change this to “I’m a Lean, Serene, Fitness Queen” (or Sexy Th-i-n-g!”).
Use your imagination! If you need help, try taking a common metaphor and customize it to you. Then again, maybe you’d be quite happy with the metaphor left as it is, as in John Mayer singing to you “Your Body Is A Wonderland!” A terrific one since it combines Metaphor with a Song Fragment, and if you are a John Mayer fan, Excitement!
Short-Term Metaphors and Daily Activities: In his 2007 book Self-Hypnosis Revolution (and subtitled: The Amazingly Simple Way to Use Self-Hypnosis to Change Your Life), author Forbes Robbins Blair makes liberal use of Metaphor. In this guide, Blair shows you how to make changes in your life by infusing symbolic meaning into your everyday activities, combined with self-suggestion (an idea we propose to ourselves to effect some change or action.)
Here’s an example I bet you’ve already thought of yourself: As you are bathing or showering, think of this daily activity as purifying your mind, body and soul. The physical act of cleansing becomes a metaphor for purity. The author recommends verbalizing the self-suggestion as you carry out the activity.
Cleansing can also become a Metaphor for casting off the unwanted—as in junk food . . . . or a bad boyfriend! A delightful example, which combines the element of song, is the Rodgers and Hammerstein hit from the musical, South Pacific: “I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair.”
For extra effect, try combining Metaphors with Mantras. For example, if you go to a sauna, you are releasing toxins from your body through perspiration. Why not use the time to imagine toxic thoughts evaporating from your mind as you intone: “Releasing toxins from my mind, leaving pure, beautiful thoughts.”
You can go wild creating powerful metaphors and self-suggestions as you go throughout your day. You can literally turn any boring task into an exercise of personal development. I like his one for crossing the street. The Metaphor is the idea of ‘getting to the other side’ (being, of course, more than a physical destination). He suggests: “I make the transition to a better frame of mind.” We could say: “I make the transition to a new, slimmer body.”
Let’s say it is quite a busy street. You could say something like: “I skillfully dodge challenges that try to take me from my weight loss goals.”
At work, you may find yourself editing a sub-standard bit out of a document on your computer. Simultaneously imagine doing the same with the junk food in your diet.
Find yourself with the boring task of photocopying documents? Imagine copying the behaviors of people who are successful at weight loss.
Think of all the personal development you can set in motion by creating self-suggestions all day long as you carry out your daily activities. As Forbes Robbins Blair points out in Self-Hypnosis Revolution, this technique is a great time-saver (something they don’t teach you in your average Time Management Seminars!)
The more you work with Metaphors, the more skilled you will become at it and the faster and deeper they will sink into your sub-conscious mind. Once ensconced, the Metaphor will guide your food and lifestyle choices. For example, once your Wizard has taken hold of the Metaphor, he will steer you away from the pastry tray and have you lacing up your running shoes!
Word Wizardry Summary
If you are susceptible to self-sabotaging, negative self-talk, banish it by practicing Word Wizardry all day long.
In fact, think of these Word Wizardry Tidbits as Magical Ingredients.
Feel them being fed through an invisible intravenous, directly to your mind
. . . a veritable injection of Mind Power.
After all, they are, aren’t they??
Powerful Mind Tip #11
Streamline your world. What does this have to do with weight loss? It sends an indirect message to your Wizard that you are changing, evolving and transitioning into a new you. One who lives in a more streamlined environment, after all, would likely have a more streamlined body!
Start with the area that will directly impact your weight—your fridge and your pantry! Get rid of the junk. Apply the ‘Asset Test.” Ask yourself: “Is this food an asset to my health, to my weight loss goals, to my complexion? Will it help me to be healthier, slimmer and more vibrant looking?”
Put this way, it’s easy to see those Pop Tarts and donuts just don’t make the grade! But an apple that provides a whole host of benefits and helps you lose weight . . . a wonderful asset!
What about your non-food assets? Give away the items that are no longer working for you. As you streamline, say a mantra: “I am streamlining.” Before you know it, you will be streamlining your body.
Keep the items that go beyond being just functional because they make you feel great: your bicycle, comfy walking shoes, and stylish outfits, whether terrific workout clothes or a knockout dress, all are assets. They give you that lift in spirit that helps move you towards your goals.
Once you’ve streamlined your bedroom and office, you’ll notice that the remaining items seem to have taken on more value. I once spent a week with my wealthy aunt in Bermuda. It was quite amazing how she was deferred to and treated with respect everywhere we went. Helping her dress for dinner, I got an insight into her meticulous ways. Items in her bureau drawers were nicely spaced, folded neatly or encased in drawstrings bags, and satin sachets. Shoes were polished and dresses and suits hung in garment bags on beautiful hangers. Everything she owned was an asset. And all were treated with care and respect for the value they held—somewhat like herself! I was in awe.
Surround yourself with quality. Provide quality care to your possessions. Keep them well-maintained, polished, cleaned up and ready to serve you. As you admire their qualities with a new awareness, you will notice a spreading effect. You’ll want quality in all areas of your life!
Tip: Notice the energy you feel when you contemplate purging an item. If you don’t feel a strong “keep” impulse, time to part with it. Decluttering experts advise on quietly thanking the item for being in your life, then to lovingly give it away. You can take comfort in knowing someone else may be happy to have it.
What’s really amazing is the mental lift you’ll experience after going through this process. Surveying your new, improved bedroom and office can be absolutely euphoric! You’ll vow to keep it that way. “Hmmmm. Are there parallels here with your new, streamlined body???
Now that you are on a roll, move on to or reducing time wasters in your life. Ask: “Which, of my daily activities, can I streamline?”
Avoid mindlessly watching TV. You are all about quality now. Remember your Mantra: “Quality in, quality out.” Read, speak, watch, and listen to quality. As you go about your day, ask yourself: “How can I streamline this process?” and “Does this add quality to my life?”
Have a Little Faith:
Purging and streamlining are more difficult when you come from ‘a position of lack.’ When you are afraid you will not be able to replace what you are purging with more of a quality item, you will be more likely to hang on to it. Like leaving a bad husband, you need to have faith that there is something or someone better out there for you . . . and that you can attract it or them into your life!
Apply the Asset Test to Your Life:
Here’s an interesting exercise. Take various areas of your life and assess what percentage could be classified in the asset category.
Start with inanimate things like your bedroom, your closet, your desk, etc.
Then move on to your career, friends and family, social activities, etc. This isn’t all about extracting. Perhaps you need to spend more time adding value to your best assets. It’s all about putting value where it belongs.
When it comes to your body, you want to purge the fat and tone what’s left. Treat your body well, not only with great nutrients and exercise, but also with massage and moisturizers. Adopt a loving attitude toward your body and you’ll be more inclined to keeping it in good shape.
Here’s a personal example. I never was in the habit of moisturizing my legs, basically because it seemed that every lotion I tried caused redness after shaving. Once I had my legs lazered and no longer had to shave, I was able to moisturize again.
“Hmmm,” I thought, I’ve spent all this money on my legs, maybe I should actually go on a diet to slim down those legs. [Note: pic to left is not me!]
See what happens? You end up adding value on top of value. Within a week of the diet, I had lost half an inch on both calves. “What took me so long” I thought. It all seemed so easy.
So purge those dysfunctional objects from your life—from your wardrobe, your garage, your fridge and pantry. What you’re left with are quality items—your valued assets. Care for them by keeping them well maintained.
Treating your assets well will raise the quality of your environment. And your mindset!! The ancillary effect will see you treating your body with more reverence.
A stronger, healthier, slimmer you—what a bonus!
Powerful Mind Tip #15
View Discipline As Your Friend
A Winning Tip from A Navy Seal: I once attended a Learning Annex seminar by a Navy Seal whose theme was that:
Discipline is the key to success in life.
“Huh??” Don’t most of us view discipline as drudgery? Something you force yourself to do to get things done? Or even worse, something we’ve avoided since childhood since we equated it with parental domination. We’re free now. We’ll do what we want, we think, as we toss discipline out the window. (Hmmm. a weight gain consequence here perhaps??)
But this was a new, empowering angle. He had the room’s attention. Could discipline really give us the things we want in life?
A healthier, trimmer body? (He certainly was a fine specimen of that!)
Suddenly there was a group reframe! It was evident in the rapt attention paid to this fellow. Discipline was no longer something imposed upon us. It was being put forward as our new life partner in our journey to success.
I think we all decided to embrace Discipline that day. Sometimes seminars can be downright life-changing. I thank that Navy Seal for giving me an exciting new perspective on a hackneyed old virtue.
What if Discipline could create your dream life? Think about that for a moment. Discipline could just be that magic genie to give you your heart’s desire . . . a slim body! Just seeing Discipline in this new positive light, makes the effort easier.
And, if every day you were just a little more disciplined, discipline would come easier to you. Just like any skill, it gets easier with practice.
How would embracing discipline make your life better? How would it impact your weight loss efforts if you viewed Discipline as your friend instead of a resented intruder on your freedom?
Many glowing tributes on successful people comment on their incredible discipline. Try this powerful mind tip. Exercise your discipline ‘muscle’ and see what effects transpire. Think about it:
How has being soft on yourself worked so far?
Embrace Discipline and reap the rewards . . . to your success!!
By now I hope I have you excited about using these techniques to access your Wizard and incredible Mind Power to achieve your dreams—weight-wise and otherwise. I would love to hear about your results and experiences! Just email me, Susan, at InnerExtra@rogers.com
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May you and Your Wizard have a long and successful partnership working together to achieve your goals and dreams!
Powerful Mind Tip #13
‘TAKING IT HIGHER’
Take Mental Giant Steps!
Part of the mental aspect of weight loss is feeling empowered, energized and really positive about your ability to reach your goals.
“If I can do this,” then, hmmm, maybe I can accomplish that,” you muse.
Does taking a Baby Step towards your goal inspire that kind of thinking? Not likely. It’s little better than stagnating or going backwards. In fact, that’s usually what happens after a Baby Step. Baby Steps take little effort and therefore provide little pride and satisfaction.
Instead, take a Giant Step!
I know, popular wisdom praises the Baby Step path to progress.
Giant Steps, on the other hand provide great forward momentum. One Giant Step can fill you with elation.
You can’t wait to take the next Giant Step!
Vow to make a Giant Step toward your goals at least every other day. (Save your Baby Steps to kickstart a Giant Step . . . or for the rare occasion when you might backslide!)
Make up your own rules—like a game. You decide what constitutes a Giant Step. It might be losing one pound over the previous day (rather than a minuscule .2 pounds). It might be:
- · doing every last thing on your day’s checklist
- · or doing the one tough thing that keeps carrying forward from past ‘To Do’ lists
- · trying out a healthful, new recipe, including buying the fresh ingredients required
- · something non-weight-related, but which gives you a sense of pride in your accomplishment, like:
ü making a cold call to a great prospect
ü getting out a manual and learning to solve a problem
ü taking a skill to a higher level
ü having a meaningful conversation with someone that brings you closer
ü reading fifty pages of a thought-provoking book
ü finishing anything that has been hanging around
ü trying something new.
Metaphorically, a Giant Step could even be three Baby Steps, a Leap Forward, a Jump Up. Whatever a Giant Step is for you, take one today. And feel proud.
Giant Steps develop your mind power. They take you out of your comfort zone – another term for stagnation!
Each Giant Step creates personal growth. And forward momentum. And each one you take gives you more control over your mind.
Giant Steps make you feel proud—a powerful emotion and motivator! Start taking Giant Steps and see your confidence and ‘positivity’ grow.
Before you know it, you will be propelled to new heights of success!
Powerful Mind Tip #14
Inspiration is a wonderful thing. It excites our minds. It fills us with visions of a better life. It makes us want to be a better person. And it sets our Wizard to work, figuring out how best to accomplish this.
Sometimes we get so busy, we forget how important it is to live an inspiring life. We neglect to get out into nature. Our favorite music gets unplayed. We lose touch with our friends. Things get us down. Before we know it—we’ve gained weight!!
My personal theory is that living in inspired thought, every day, is a great way to stay on track—to be connected to your ‘higher self,’ if you like. Would your higher self allow self-destructive binging? Or laziness? Or self-pity? You get the idea.
Do those things that keep you
in inspired mode!
Here are some ideas:
i) Connect with Good Friends:
I’m talking about the ones who lift you up. Do the same for them. Avoid those ‘friends’ who drive you crazy with frequent ‘gripe’ session calls.
ii) Take Inspiration From Real Life Role Models:
To be inspired for your weight loss, what better book to read than one by someone who lost 115 pounds in six months, and who had her trials and tribulations televised for the world to see. I am referring to the charming Ali Vincent, the first woman to win the Biggest Loser contest. Her book, Believe It. Be It will be an inspiration for anyone who has a lot of weight to lose, and make it seem all so much simpler for those of us with smaller weight loss goals.
iii) Take Inspiration From Heroes Or Heroines In Movies and Books:
A Hero is someone who was faced with an incredible challenge and met it with courage, intention and integrity. Recently I saw the movie “The Grey” with one of my favorite actors, Liam Neeson, who of course played the Hero. The poor guy and a not-so-tight band of survivors were fighting wolves and the elements after a plane crash in Alaska. I came out of it thinking that I was lucky—no wolves howling at me. All I had to do was . . . and then I reviewed the various challenges, small and large, of my life, including losing a few pounds. Suddenly it all seemed like a piece of cake (oops, make that ‘lean protein.’) I resolved to get going on them with renewed fervor.
iv) Take inspiration from the beauty and purity of nature:
The way it touches our soul has a way of bringing out our inner beauty and spirit.
Why not create an Inspiration Scrapbook?
Fill it with:
– inspirational words
– moving poems and prose,
– lists of songs you love
– your accounts of wonderful moments
– people who have inspired you
– photos of loved ones,
– cards they have sent you,
– photos of nature
– articles on people you admire or who have done something inspiring, etc.
Add journaling to your scrapbook—document those little inspirational tidbits you pick up going about your day. Make it a beautiful book. There are so many terrific scrapbook notions available in craft stores today. This is a book you will treasure and take inspiration from for a lifetime.
Powerful Mind Tip #15
The Trifecta: Intention, Passion and Focus
I was reading an article on an award-winning school principal in Toronto, Amina Timol. Asked for the key to her school’s outstanding improvement in student results, she said:
“If you don’t put intentionality to student achievement then the end results are hit and miss.”
I reflected that the same is true for any endeavor in life. Weight loss, for example! When do we get hit and miss results and all the yo-yoing? When do we get the results we really desire? I think the difference is rock-solid Intention.
Focus is a great tool to make things happen. It’s one of the traits attributed most often to success. Many coaches praise Focus to the skies. With Focus, they say, you will accomplish ten times the results in half the time.
For Funambulists (high wire artists), Focus is a matter of life and death. On a practice wire crossing, the famous Nick Wallenda was doing fine, when just eight paces from his landing, he stumbled. The crowd gasped. Wallenda maneuvered himself into a crouch, curled his back foot around the wire and took a few moments for some crucial, deep breathing. And, for a few knuckle-crunching moments, the crowd held its breath. There was no safety net below. Fortunately Wallenda recouped and completed the crossing to a rousing cheer from all assembled. Asked later about the incident, Wallenda replied that he had temporarily lost his focus.
Businesses go under when they lose their focus, losing millions of dollars.
What would lack of focus do to your weight loss program? Conversely, imagine how laser-like focus could boost your results! You’d lose weight faster, creating excitement. That excitement would reinforce your dedication to your weight loss mission and drive you towards your weight loss goal. Equate Focus with success.
Now consider the power of Intention. It glues you to the task at hand in a more exciting way than Focus ever can. There is an emotional, even a spiritual element to it. Intention infuses Focus with special meaning. Intention is like Focus on steroids. Intention speaks to your Wizard. Take your Focus to lose weight higher with Intention!!
So set an Intention for yourself: at the beginning of the day before each meal and every task you want to accomplish for yourself.
Even better, set your Intention for the next day the night before.
Add Passion to Focus and Intention, and you’re going to be practically invincible. Passion fires up your spirit and provides psychic energy.
Use the powerful Trifecta of Focus, Intention and Passion: Say:
“I will focus on this all the way through, until it is done.”
“This is my intention – I feel it in my soul.”
“I am passionate about this!” [Passion comes from reviewing your ‘Reasons Why’ and holding them close.]
See how much more you accomplish during your day, and how your activities will hold more meaning for you. The more you implement The Trifecta, the more rewarding your days will become. This empowered feeling, focused on your weight loss goals, will transfer over to other areas of your life—building confidence and belief in yourself! Set an intention to lose one pound today. Get Intention working for you both directly and indirectly. Now that’s powerful!!
Well Wishes To You And Your Wizard !
You have all the power you need to reach your weight loss goals.
You and you Wizard are forming a powerful partnership.
Together you can achieve remarkable success.
I wish you well as you embark on this exciting journey—all the best for your Weight Loss Success!!